Advice for Dancers

You Might Practically Live at the Theater, but Your Dating Life Isn't Doomed

When you spend most of your day at the theater, it's challenging to find time to date. Photo by rawpixel/Unsplash.

My personal life has taken a nosedive since I broke up with my boyfriend. He's in the same show and is now dating one of my colleagues. It's heartbreaking to see them together, and I'm determined never to date a fellow dancer again. But it's challenging to find someone outside, as I practically live in the theater. Do you have any advice?

—Loveless, New York, NY


You're right that mixing work and romance can be a potential minefield, and dancing all day limits your options. Have you considered trying a dating app? Fortunately, some don't make you start completely from scratch. Hinge and Coffee Meets Bagel tap into your mutual connections by accessing friends of your friends on Facebook.

But don't feel pressured to rush into your next relationship. This is an ideal time to improve other aspects of your personal life. Take advantage of being single as an opportunity to focus on yourself and use the time you would have spent with your boyfriend to catch up with friends.

Send your questions to Dr. Linda Hamilton at advicefordancers@dancemedia.com.

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