When you spend most of your day at the theater, it's challenging to find time to date. Photo by rawpixel/Unsplash.

You Might Practically Live at the Theater, but Your Dating Life Isn't Doomed

My personal life has taken a nosedive since I broke up with my boyfriend. He's in the same show and is now dating one of my colleagues. It's heartbreaking to see them together, and I'm determined never to date a fellow dancer again. But it's challenging to find someone outside, as I practically live in the theater. Do you have any advice?

—Loveless, New York, NY


You're right that mixing work and romance can be a potential minefield, and dancing all day limits your options. Have you considered trying a dating app? Fortunately, some don't make you start completely from scratch. Hinge and Coffee Meets Bagel tap into your mutual connections by accessing friends of your friends on Facebook.

But don't feel pressured to rush into your next relationship. This is an ideal time to improve other aspects of your personal life. Take advantage of being single as an opportunity to focus on yourself and use the time you would have spent with your boyfriend to catch up with friends.

Send your questions to Dr. Linda Hamilton at advicefordancers@dancemedia.com.

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5 Self-Soothing Exercises You Can Do to Calm Your Anxiety

Physical stillness can be one of the hardest things to master in dance. But stillness in the bigger sense—like when your career and life are on hold—goes against every dancers' natural instincts.

"Dancers are less comfortable with stillness and change than most," says TaraMarie Perri, founder and director of Perri Institute for Mind and Body and Mind Body Dancer. "Through daily discipline, we are trained to move through space and are attracted to forward momentum. Simply put, dancers are far more comfortable when they have a sense of control over the movements and when life is 'in action.' "

To regain that sense of control, and soothe some of the anxiety most of us are feeling right now, it helps to do what we know best: Get back into our bodies. Certain movements and shapes can help ground us, calm our nervous system and bring us into the present.

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